Keeping it Real [Single]: Investing Your Time & Energy Instead of Wasting It

Valentine's Day was almost 2 weeks ago, and the very thought of the "holiday" activates my gag reflex. I'm a rule-follower, but I hate rules... Not all rules; just stupid ones.

Whoever decided to commercialize Valentine's Day (and Christmas, for that matter) should be duct taped to a park bench in the middle of spring for all of the seagulls to poop on him or her. 

I can bet that some of you are reading this and have already labeled me as a "hater", and I'm fine with that. 

...at least I'm not a "sell-out".

I don't believe in "faking the funk". Anyone who knows me can attest that I am pretty straight-forward with my opinion. I've been told that I'm too honest; brutally honest and, in the past, I have even been called mean and/or lacking tact. 

One thing that I don't recall ever being labeled as is "a liar". 

If you ask me something, I'm going to tell you the truth. I don't sugarcoat things (that's extra, and "ain't nobody got time for that"). I operate like this with everything and that includes romantic interests.

When I tell my dating stories to some of my friends, they sometimes interrupt and jokingly ask, "Wait. Who are we talking about this week?" Without missing a beat or taking offense, I explain just "who we are talking about" and I continue my story.  

***Note: I do not sit at home and cry over anyone,  nor am I waiting for someone to call me and/or ask me out.*** 

Now, back to the Valentine's Day shenanigans... There were quite a bit of heavy hearts on Valentine's Day, which is quite an oxymoron, seeing that this "holiday" is supposed to celebrate and promote love. 


There were people--- men and women---  who were quite desperate to have a Valentine, so that they would not be lonely on Valentine's Day. The thing is, if these people learned to love themselves, the urgency to have a Valentine would be obsolete. 

There is a difference between being "lonely" and being "alone". 

I was alone on Valentine's Day, and I was fine with it. In fact, I forgot, several times that day, that it was even Valentine's Day. 

Meanwhile, at the Bat Cave, people in pseudo-relationships and/or relationships that are pretty much irreparable were busy on that day (and, for some people, over the whole weekend), spending money and wasting time on dead-end relationships. 

I don't get it. Why would you do that? 

It's like walking past your fishbowl for several weeks, months or years and seeing the goldfish, belly-up in the bowl, yet you go to the bowl every day (or almost every day) and sprinkle fish food in the bowl. 

REALLY???

I think that I have rambled enough. You get the point, don't you? Let me break it down for you... I don't do anything that I do not want to do, and that includes staying in a dead-end relationship. How do you know if you're in a dead-end relationship? You just do. Your gut tells you that (duh), but you choose to ignore it and that's all fine and dandy. When the relationship falls like a playing card tower that was made from Dollar Tree playing cards, just "keep it real" and admit that "something" (read: your gut) told you to let go a long time ago. 

If you are not happy, the other person probably isn't, either. It's just that society (and, sometimes, friends and family) puts so much pressure on us to "work it out". Um... No. Some things just aren't meant to be "worked out". Don't waste your time, trying to work it out. Walk out, instead. Chances are, the other person will thank you for taking that step, because he/she was not strong enough to do it. He or she may not be so grateful, initially, but, later on in life, when he/she has had an opportunity to heal and evolve, he/she actually thank you. 

Come on; it doesn't take a brain surgeon to figure this out, people. Just GYPSY!!! #ProblemSolved